Author: The Integrated Man

My First Experiences Being Tied

It was with some excitement and a bit of fear that I decided for the first-time last year to get tied by a man I didn’t know anything about, and by taking part of his personal art project. Mr. A had been practicing the art of Japanese ropes for years and pushed his passion to the point of proposing rope therapy sessions for people willing to explore surrender, stillness, and healing. I felt a bitContinue reading

The Overnight Turnaround of a Womanizer into a Hardcore Christian

I discovered Mr. R several years ago when a friend of mine introduced me to his first books. In a few years, this guy became one of the most influential online promoters of pick-up techniques flavored by concepts stemming from the “manosphere” (or the “red pill movement”, consisting in interpreting the social and sexual dynamic between men and women through the prism of primitive and selfish biological imperatives). I never followed his blog nor hisContinue reading

How I Stopped Being Nice

During many years from my early adult life, I felt lost. I knew that something was wrong with me but never managed to put a finger on anything tangible that might have caused such feelings of being adrift. I still had a good life situation, but I clearly didn’t know who I was. Even if I had decent successes and relationships with women coming from my social circles, I felt somehow unfulfilled with my romanticContinue reading

How To Practice And Increase Awareness?

I already made a post about the importance of awareness on the journey towards integration. Let’s look now at the tools you can use to practice and increase it. Of course, like in anything on which you would invest your time and energy, you have first to be convinced, and believe that it’s worthwhile exploring this route. And belief systems are not forged by absolute truths but are rather built up by the way individualsContinue reading

That’s How Powerful I Am

Throughout my life until recently, I had to deal with acute and bottled-up anger. As a young adult though, I was simply not aware of it. My anger got triggered by a lot of daily stimuli, and even without noticing it, it would trigger in turn a lot of angry thoughts in my head that would feed even more the emotion, and the negative feedback loop between my body and mind would go on, likeContinue reading

I Love Working Out in the Morning

Several months ago, I started to work out in mornings for the first time at the gym. I just fucking love it. And actually, so much that I have to force myself not to hit it after four days in a row in order to get some rest. Which is a good problem when it comes to such habits if you ask me. Here is what I have been doing: I don’t make any plansContinue reading

Why Many Men Don’t Want To Sort Themselves Out?

In order to get more integrated, you must sort yourself out. The amount of work required to do so, and which aspects of your life has to be prioritized (i.e., spirituality, sexually, psychologically, etc.) very much vary from one individual to another. Did you grow up in a functional family? In a conservative one? Were you surrounded and guided by strong masculine figures? Are you a very short guy? Some lucky men kick-off their earlyContinue reading

Why Do I Love Daygame?

When it comes to hitting on women, there are different types of game Night game is when you chase women in bars and clubs, and when usually both parties (gamers and women) are under the influence of alcohol. The whole online pickup subculture initiated in the early 2000s that massively spread in the last decade all started at night. I have been attempting to practise night game in the past, but I never got goodContinue reading

Why Awareness Is So Important for Integration?

Increasing awareness, is one of the pillars for becoming an integrated man. But before discussing on how to practise and increase it (described here), let’s explore why. Become the observer It is a prerequisite to observe your own thoughts and feelings without getting completely identified by them, and to start gaining some perspective about their triggers and their influences on your behaviour. In particular, you might realize that many of your inner thoughts are mereContinue reading